The “Sandwich Generation”
The “Sandwich Generation” is a phrase that has been incorporated into the Dictionary. It is a term that describes an increasing number of men and women in the Boomer generation who are trapped in between demands from children growing as well as the demands of elderly parents.
A study conducted by the [AARP] as well as the National Alliance for Caring found that there are more than 44 million Americans who care for family members with illnesses 60 percent of whom are women. Based on the National Center on Health Statistics around 80percent of women in their 40s are parents to children with who they remain accountable. In light of these statistics, most of you could be wondering how I manage taking care of myself, my parent’s kids, and myself. Here are some ideas to assist you in maintaining and nourishing yourself:
1. Get your energy back – relax in the hot tub, snuggle into a comfy chair with a book and take in a breathtaking sunrise. Solitude is a great way to reconnect emotionally. Gail realized, “I’m working on being gentle with myself. I’m committed to regular meditation, prayer as well as T’ai Chi and rest. As I restore my inner harmony I’m able to pursue what is right for me.”
2. Don’t be isolated from your family and friends when you take care of your parents in your hectic schedule. Stay in contact even if you’re not able to spend more time physically. Karen acknowledged, “The blessings of my family friends, friends, and faith have been a source of strength for me. Friends from my past have been extremely accommodating. Since I don’t live in the same area as some of them email is the lifeline for me.”
3. Let go of negative emotions. Guilt is the main emotion for caregivers who are worried about whether they’re doing enough. Remember that you’re doing your best in the context of your current circumstances. There are times when you’re being angry, resentful, or fearful of what’s going to be. Recognize these universal feelings when you deal with these feelings.
4. You will feel more optimistic when you practice meditation or relaxation. Recall three positive events that occurred throughout the day. Each night, before you fall asleep make a list of affirmations that reflect the good things about your day. Alice thought, “I try to stay positive and positive. I am not a fan of self-pity. I strive to wake up with a smile and go to bed happy with what I’ve accomplished and living life fully. “She that laughs the last laughs the best is my motto and ‘when you slip, take it as a part of dancing’ has become my mantra.”
5. Give yourself the gift of laughter by renting a hilarious film, discovering amusement in everyday life, or just spending time with a person who brings you joy. All of these activities help to reduce stress, avoid burnout, and improve your outlook. Research has shown that laughter stimulates endorphins to release. an optimistic mood can help you think of new solutions and take better decisions.
6. Request the information you require from your family and professional members. Don’t believe that you have to take on everything. Be honest and open about what you are feeling and also encourage your family members to join in and take on their part. Set up boundaries that are firm to safeguard yourself when you face family problems.
7. Recognize yourself for all you accomplish in achieving equilibrium throughout your day. Accept and take note of the compliments people give you. Enjoy the appreciation and affection that your children and parents express to you. In reflection on what she had done, Harriet felt, “This has tested my willpower. I’m still feeling overwhelmed. But I am confident that I’m strong enough to take on everything.”
As you become more responsible for your parents and continue to play your place in the lives of your children, “sandwich boomers“, have fun with the activities and time which allow you to take good care of yourself.